Before You Say a Word
Your prospect started evaluating you before you said a word.
You think the sales conversation starts when you open your mouth. Your buyer decided something about you well before that. Here's what they're actually watching.
Think about the last time you were the buyer.
It doesn't have to be at work. It could be somewhere personal. Or a major decision where someone was trying to earn your trust and your money simultaneously. Maybe it was a contractor in your home, or a doctor's office, financial advisor or someone helping an aging parent find a place to live.
You weren't just evaluating the product or the price. You were watching the person. How they entered the room. Whether they looked at you or past you. Whether they talked at your loved one or to them. Whether their energy said I've done this a thousand times and you're number one thousand and one, or I'm actually here. You made a call on all of that before a single feature was mentioned, and you were right to.
Your prospects are doing the exact same thing to you, every time. The evaluation starts before the pitch. It starts in the parking lot, in the lobby, in the first three seconds of a phone call. It starts with whether you seem rushed or present, distracted or focused, transactional or genuinely curious. Most reps spend enormous energy crafting what they say and almost no energy on what they're broadcasting before they say it.
Your prospects are doing the exact same thing to you, every time. The evaluation starts before the pitch. It starts in the parking lot, in the lobby, in the first three seconds of a phone call.
It starts with whether you seem rushed or present, distracted or focused, transactional or genuinely curious. Most reps spend enormous energy crafting what they say and almost no energy on what they're broadcasting before they say it.
This is the part of sales that doesn't show up in training. You can rehearse your value prop until it's flawless and still lose the room because you walked in carrying the energy of someone who needed the deal more than they needed to help. Buyers are perceptive. Especially buyers who are making decisions that matter to them personally. They're not just shopping for a solution. They're deciding whether you're someone they want in their corner.
"You are a reflection of what they're about to purchase. That's not a metaphor. That's the actual decision they're making."
The flip side is equally true. The rep who walks in genuinely curious, who looks at the actual human in front of them and not the commission behind them, who asks one more question when they could have moved to the close, is the rep who gets something most training can't manufacture. They get the benefit of the doubt, and in a crowded market where buyers have plenty of options, the benefit of the doubt is often the whole ballgame.
Consider these three things:
What are you broadcasting before you start talking?
Rushed energy, distracted attention, and transactional body language are all visible before you open your mouth. Your prospect is reading them in real time. What impression lands before your first sentence? Is it the one you'd choose if you were paying attention?
When did you last put yourself on the other side of a sales conversation?
Not as a competitive exercise but as a genuine experience of being a buyer on something that matters to you personally. The reps who have done it recently tend to be more attuned to what their own prospects are feeling. It recalibrates empathy faster than any training module.
Are you selling to the person in the room or the decision they represent?
Sometimes the person you're meeting with is advocating for someone else. A parent. A patient. A team. When you treat the person in front of you as the whole picture, you miss the actual stakes of the decision. The rep who sees and acknowledges the bigger human context wins the trust of the person in the room and everyone they're protecting.
You can't control everything a buyer decides about you before you speak. However, you can control a lot more of it than most reps realize. Presence is a choice. Curiosity is a choice. Showing up as someone worth trusting, before the pitch even starts, that's a choice too. Make it deliberately.
That's Road Notes from The Traveling Saleslady. If this one resonated with you, the full conversation that inspired it is waiting for you on The Traveling Saleslady podcast. Find it wherever you listen. See you on the road.
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Road Notes is a production of The Traveling Saleslady in partnership with Brilliant Beam Media.
